The Art of Love: The Conversational Palette

04/01/09 08:46 Filed in: Marriage Counseling & Couples Therapy
Like an artist, you can choose topics from your “Conversational Palette” that move your partner to feel more intimacy, passion, and commitment in your relationship.
A painter’s colors, a composer’s notes, a poet’s words – all are chosen by the artist to affect us in some way – to move us to feel something the artist wants us to feel. Like an artist, you can choose topics from your “Conversational Palette” that move your partner to feel more intimacy, passion, and commitment in your relationship. 

If you want more intimacy, choose a topic that makes your partner feel positive about you.  For example, talk about something you did today that your partner would like, respect or admire.  Alternatively, focus the conversation on something about your partner that you like, respect or admire.

Or if more passion is the goal, talk about something – real or imaginary -- that might arouse attraction, affection or lust.  This might be anything exciting in the past, present or future.

And if commitment needs a lift, discuss a topic that reflects your devotion to each other.  Talk about anything that highlights acts of caring, trust, support, or appreciation.

The Conversational Palette is the key to romantic love.




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